#letsmakehomonormativeathing

We were sitting there, talking, well gossiping really, as we have done for 11 years (side note I am so proud of this powerful supportive female friendship) now and for the first time ever I slipped into a completely homonormative – that’s right you read that correctly – homonormative way of thinking with a straight…

5 things to never say to lesbians

Due to some oh so inspiring experiences lately…some of my personal dont’s: So how do you have sex…I mean do you like use something? Ignorance is just so not bliss in this case. While having a sex talk with my hetero girlfriends’ one of them launched this question at me. It was semi-awkward to be…

moments

han sido momentos moments in life that feel impenetrable even by the most negative of forces moments that can pause our internal clocks the ones whose chime we so unconsciously follow the habitual actions, routines, patterns — pause just for these moments moments, moments that sing to the very deepest of ourselves — the parts…

thank you, bella mia

I haven’t been writing lately at all. I don’t think I have wanted to make these feelings real by putting them down in words, but I guess my grace period is over. I lost my job and am on a frantic hunt for a new one. It was the perfect storm of crap that makes…

Dear Mom

Dear Mom, I cannot quite remember the way other Mother’s Days were in the past, but there was something different about this one. There was an insurmountable tension that left me feeling unwelcome and further distanced from you. I went there booming, happy to see you; a bouquet of flowers in my hand, presents, and…

legal discrimination?!

I remember sitting at my parents’ kitchen table with them about a month before the Supreme Court announced the legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide. We were talking about what they thought was going to happen. My parents did not believe that the Supreme Court would rule in favor of same-sex marriage across the nation and…